We’re back where it all began! Two summers ago we launched Shady Ladies Literary Society at the ELMWOOD CEMETERY with Julie Buntin and Cristina Moracho.

To celebrate how much we’ve grown, we’re hosting ETAF RUM and her novel, A WOMAN IS NO MAN, at Elmwood Cemetery. The book asks the probing question: What is a woman worth? Her characters are grappling with that as immigrants, women, mothers and daughters. The book was released in March and is already a New York Times Book Review Editor’s Choice AND is being compared to Khaled Hosseini’s A Thousand Splendid Suns. {Read an excerpt here.}

"A Woman Is No Man complicates and deepens the Arab American story — a tale as rich and varied as America itself.” — Washington Post

A Woman Is No Man is a multi-generational family saga set in the tight-knit Palestinian-American community of Bay Ridge, Brooklyn, where Etaf, herself, grew up. Etaf draws from personal experiences — including her own arranged marriage — but the boo is still a work a fiction. Yet, she was compelled to include a note to critics in early releases explaining that she could be in danger just for telling this story.

A Woman Is No Man is the story of women behind closed doors but also how those stories are told.

ELMWOOD CEMETERY is hosting us for the evening, and guests will enjoy a private tour of grounds.

Chef EDERIQUE GOUDIA will delight us with another collaborative dinner featuring the tastes of the Palestinian diaspora.


Parking: There is free parking in the lot behind the church.

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What's the refund policy? All sales are final.

Do I have to bring my printed ticket to the event? No. We will be able to check you in without a printed ticket. 

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The Picnic / $60-$80 / 5-8 P.M.

◽️ Custom A Woman Is No Man cocktail
◽️ Private tour of the cemetery
◽️ Picnic dinner with wine provided
◽️ Meet and mingle with other Shady Ladies!
◽️ Signed copy of A Woman is No Man
Companion Option ($60): Does not include a copy of the book. Good for friends who plan to share.
Extra book: $20 ($27 retail on day of event)

Note: This is a picnic. While we will provide some chairs for guests, a majority of the seating will be on the ground.

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